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War for your kids, not against them! We need to see them as they will be, not as they are. The Bible says the power of life and death is in the tongue. This powerful reminder reminds me to be careful with my words towards my children. When my kids are acting out sometimes, this is the last thing on my mind, but I should be more aware in the hard times to call out the good. Parents continue to call out what is right and good inside of them. No matter what contend for their future.

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Too often as fathers, we forget that we help to determine our children’s identity and beliefs about God, others, and themselves. Many things out of our mouths firmly imprint on our children. We have a tremendous responsibility to speak life over them and speak the good in them that we see. In moments of failure and depression later on in life, the encouraging words of a father can help reestablish the truth about them. Like a compass bringing your children back to true north.

Speak these six things over your children

I love you. Our kids need to know that our love is secure. No matter what our kids have done or will do we love them. Our love will not be based on performance or a particular standard but love that is unchanging and steady. Consequences are real to actions we make, however, lost love is never one of them. “I love you,” must be spoken in your house often.

God makes you righteous. Our kids need to know that it is God and God alone that makes us righteous. We all fall short, and we all don’t measure up, but in Christ we do. We will never be perfect, but righteousness is given as a gift when we accept Christ as our savior. Identity in Christ is something that needs to be taught to our kids.

I believe in you. Letting our children know that we are for them and not against them is crucial. That they have a deep knowing, they are capable and able to overcome. Sometimes when we are low and don’t believe in ourselves we have to see what others see in us. Knowing that their parents think they are capable gives them the strength to get back up when life knocks them on their backside. Be that physical force that encourages your kids to reach higher in life. Let your kids know you believe in them.

God has a plan even when you can’t see it. This world gets murky, and it can be hard to see what God’s plan is in our life. Most of the time following God is like driving through fog. We can only see a few feet in front of us instead of the whole picture. We must move forward believing that sooner or later the fog will lift, and we will be able to see. Until then your kids will need to know to keep moving and taking steps of bold action. Speak the truth that God has a great plan for their life.

Everyone is valuable. No one is more valuable than someone else. The great commandment is to love God and to love others. Loving all is only accomplished when we see value in every person. We all have different talents and abilities, but no talent is greater than another. Treat every person as valued and treasured gift. Teach your kids to see everyone through eyes of value and love.

God is always with you. God is with you always, not for one second will He leave you. He does not leave you if you pick the wrong path or screw up. He does not depart from you but encourages you to go deeper in a relationship with Him. The Word says that we will experience heartache and walk through the valley of the shadow of death but that God will be with us. No matter how bad it looks, God is always walking it out with you. Let your kids know to look to Jesus when times get hard and lean into Him.

The job of a parent never ends no matter if your kids are young or adults we must speak light and truth into them. In a world that drags and pulls you down, we need to be that encouraging force that draws them back to Jesus. He makes them able. He makes them beautiful. He makes them worthy. He is everything they and we could ever need. Keep saying these six truths until hearing becomes knowing. Be blessed on your journey as you parent well.

What are you speaking over your kids?

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I’m failing as a husband, father, business owner, and personally. Every area of my life on the outside looks pretty close to perfect but on the inside I suck. I don’t give my kids enough attention. My wife’s needs to connect emotionally are left unmet. I’m impatient, angry, and depressed. The accuser is always quick to point out all my failures. I never realized life would be this hard, it looks so easy for everyone else. I always thought I would be successful; I thought things would come easy for me.That success would fill empty places, I thought people that weren’t succeeding where just lazy. I was cocky, and life has smacked me back to reality. I expected  perfection from myself. My expectations for myself have not been close to how I have performed. I suck if all I listen to are the thoughts that roar inside my mind when I fail.

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Perfection myth. The imposter would like you to believe that perfection is attainable. That somehow one day we will try hard enough and fix enough about ourselves that we won’t fail. Those other people have it together, and you don’t. That somehow the genetic father and dad gene skipped over you and me. I’m falling short of perfection, and that’s ok. I’m failing because I fall short of the expectation for myself that have in my mind. The standard the Bible calls me toward. I’m failing because I’m not Superman. I fail and instead of a comforting voice telling me it’s ok the imposter inside of me laughs. That voice inside my head and yours probably too. That accusatory voice is whispering into our ears thoughts of unworthiness and it never stops. Juggling all our responsibilities and relationships, we are bound to drop things. When we let go of a ball is when the imposter starts in on us. Not acknowledging when we do things correctly our mind is our biggest critic. The imposter that says to close myself off from those I love. The imposter that says we should hide failure and pretend that we have it all together.

Hope. There’s hope, though. There’s hope if we refuse to quit! There’s hope because we will keep aiming to be a man of honor and integrity. If we want to be a man that fights for their family and loves them well. A husband and father that is Patient, Kind and understanding is the bar that we must set. We desire to be the business owner that is a sacrificial leader. If we want to be that man, we must never quit. There is hope if we keep trying and keep failing forward. We must refuse to give up. We must refuse to stop aiming high to the standard that the Bible points us toward. We must commit to ignore the imposter that wants to get us to stop trying. We must continue to aim at being the sacrificial man our family needs and deserves. There’s hope because we keep learning and growing. Hope because Jesus makes us whole not our performance.

Failing Forward. We must be comfortable with failure. We must come from a place of aiming high and realizing it is only God that gives us what we need to get there. We must acknowledge our imperfection. It is Jesus and His death and resurrection that complete us. He makes us Righteous but we will never be perfect until heaven. Perfection is a myth; surrender is what is required. Philippians 4:13 “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” We will not reach the goal, but we must press on. We must press through. We must never give up.

So even though we say to ourselves we are unworthy and a failure. We can stand in TRUTH that we are made worthy through the shed blood of the lamb, not in goals reached or in less struggle. That to have it all we must surrender it all. 2 Corinthians 12: 9-11 says, “But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly of my weakness, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weakness, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” That if this is true it is never about us but always about Him. Be blessed on your journey as you trust Jesus and His shaping in your life.

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Early on in my career as an entrepreneur, I was told that you can’t be a good father and an excellent businessman. I bought into the lie that I had to choose one or the other. That somehow they were mutually exclusive. What happened is someone who I knew and trusted forced their self-limiting beliefs on me. This level of thinking caused me to bounce back in forth between an extreme focus on my business and intense focus on my family. I would either be all in as a father and husband or all in as an entrepreneur. In my heart, I would feel like I was always robbing from one and giving my all in the other. Always failing, always feeling guilty. This level of thinking leads only to guilt and condemnation.

Can you be a good father and entrepreneur

If you are struggling in juggling the balance between fatherhood and entrepreneurship, follow these four guideposts

Prayer/stillness. When we already feel like we don’t have enough time for business or family are tendency can be to squeeze every second of the day into movement. The desire to be in constant motion is derived from feeling time moving means more ground gained. Movement equating to ground gained can be true, but I know in my life that I am inefficient with most of my day. The Pareto principle states that eighty percent of the output from a given situation or system is determined by twenty percent of the input. Pareto principle is true for my life, and I know that it is true for your life as well. The only way that you are going to figure out your twenty percent that you need to put your effort into is to have reflection and prayer. Pause to ask the creator of the universe what you should do. Pause and reflect on what has worked and even more importantly what didn’t so you can stop spending your time doing it. Prayer and stillness must be built into our lives daily to be the best husbands, fathers, and entrepreneurs that we are capable of being.

Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe. ~ Abraham Lincoln

Priority. There is a great analogy that Dr Henry Cloud gives. He said if you fill a glass jar with large rocks then put smaller rocks in the jar, and they will fill in the gaps left by the bigger rocks. Then put sand in the glass and it will fill in the space left by both sizes of stones. Last put water in the glass, and it will fill in all the space remaining. However, if you do the opposite and put the same amount of water in first, then sand, then smaller rocks, and last the big rocks the big rocks won’t fit. This is how your life is; you must start with the big rocks. If you know the big rocks for you, you will be the man you desire to be. For me, I must start with God, and then my wife, children, others, then my business. If I approach life with this priority, win! Priorities will help you to be the dad and businessman you hope to be.  Here are some questions from Dr. Cloud in his article in Success Magazine to help identify your big rocks.

  1. If I only had one week to live, how would I live?
  2. What are the top four rocks—the most important things—in my life?
  3. How can I create a lifestyle that is in alignment with my rocks?
  4. What legacy do I want to leave?

Speak. We must express our expectations. Not of others but for ourselves, affirming that I will be a man of intention, focus, and presence. Affirmation is something that I have begun to do more and more. I strive to be what I say to myself in the morning. I am raising my expectation; I expect to win, and, therefore, I rise to that standard. Studies show that we believe more of what we say then what others say. Rewrite your story by using the most powerful muscle in your body your tongue. Speak your expectations and be the man God made you to be.

Proverbs 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Boundaries. You must build your fences. Fences for yourself and for others to follow. A lack of boundaries causes a lack of presence and productivity. We have great freedom we are given, and entrepreneurialism enhances that. With great freedom comes great responsibility and ownership of that freedom. The only way to steward freedom properly is by setting up boundaries. Here are my top five: 1. Biblical match. 2. Mental presence and physical presence to match. 3. A day of rest a week. 4. Priority 5. Identifying a problem or a concern. These are five different banks of my river. When I follow them, my life flows when I use my freedom improperly it always causes a problem for me. Set boundaries to have the freedom that brings life not death.

In the end, perfection is a myth. Improvement and presence are what we should be after. Focus on being the best version of yourselves in the moment of time that you are presently in. Adjust, move, ask for forgiveness, pray for wisdom, and never give in. Failure happens in giving up and giving in. Take a step and trust Him with the rest. Be blessed on your journey.

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As an entrepreneur, I desire my children to follow in the crazy footsteps of entrepreneurialism. Just like I learned from my parents, I want to teach and instill skills, heart attitude, and mindset that will serve my kids as they grow. Teaching your child to be an entrepreneur is not something that should happen haphazardly, but with intention.

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Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Not every child will or is wired to grow up to be an entrepreneur, but every child should be taught entrepreneur principles. Entrepreneur principles will help your kids no matter the career choice they choose as they get older. Here are 6 mindset and heart principles every child should be taught.

Giving. Giving is such a crucial part of both following Christ and owning a business. To properly lead and guide staff and to serve customers, instilling a heart of service is required. Any success in business or life without a giving heart will lead your children astray. It is in the giving that our heart aligns with God. Here are some tips by the Daily Parent on how to raise kids with a giving heart. Saying “no” to our desires and “yes” to putting others above ourselves needs to be encouraged and exhorted in our children.

Problem-solving (why). It is easy to give kids answers and not allow for creative imagination. We must allow struggle instead of jumping in and doing or fixing. Encouraging thought and innovation. When explaining things to our kids, put an emphasis on why. Why is harder to explain so it is tempting to throw out because I said so or because. I am guilty of that way too often. When you don’t know, be honest and find out together. It teaches our kids to look for solutions. Here is an excellent article by All Pro Dad on ways to teach your children to be problem solvers. All business is, is meeting a need or problem. Teach your kids to solve problems and they will thrive.

View of failure. What better time to allow your kids to fail and to keep them from fatal failure than when they are under our roof. My instincts as a dad are to rush in and save the day but in all reality, I need to allow failure and encourage my son and daughters to shoot again. Failure should just be merely a learning experience and not a defining point of loss. With the right perspective, children will learn not to fear failure and start to aim higher. Teach your kids not to settle by giving them a proper view of failing.

Romans 8:28 And we know all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Training decision making. If you own a business you know the buck stops with you. You can’t put off or push decision making on to others. Still today I struggle to make the call in non-emergency settings. I am better than I use to be, but I have a long way to go. It is important to allow our kids to make age appropriate decisions. Decision making is a skill, and it must be treated that way. It takes practice and just like any skill there will be success and failure. Help your kids gain confidence by teaching them to lead and make the call.

Earn and spend money. Rachel Cruze talks about the difference between commissions and allowance in this short and great article. It is important for kids to connect work with money. Allow your kids to work with money and teach them how to use it. We have a simple three things they must do with the money they earn. They must give some; it all starts with giving. They must save some. My oldest daughter is saving for an American Girl doll. Lastly, they must spend some. We help them spend wisely and don’t allow them to buy whatever they want. Teach your kids how to earn money and how to spend money to help them become wise stewards in business.

Modeling. In anything we teach our kids it is always more important to model what we expect from them than mere words. Do as I say not as I do is the biggest bunch of bologna I have ever heard. Our actions will always speak louder than our words to our kids. Taking care, you model attributes you want your kids to have will make you a better spouse, parent, and business owner. Those little eyes are always watching and absorbing. Be proud of what they are soaking up by taking care to lead well. Model sound entrepreneurial traits so that your little sponges will soak it up.

Parenting is not formulaic because every child has a will and personality. We would like it to be a recipe book, but it is more art than science. Encourage and foster strengths that you see in your children. We will often fail, but we must never give up. We must learn and grow and always lean on Christ, which gives us what we need for the day. Be blessed as you plant seeds in the future leaders and foster their journey.

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My son is four and he is beginning to cling to me more and more. Before I have been chop liver, but he is now wanting to wrestle, fish and play with me. It makes me happy and at the same time it makes me very aware in what I want my son to know. So this is an open letter to my son for when he is older.

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Luke the world will tell you many things. That a man doesn’t cry. That you can’t be strong and compassionate. At the same time, many will tell you that being masculine is wrong. That the adventurer spirit that lives in you is not okay. That you should live a passive life living safe and meaningless. I want to talk to you about four different attributes that the world will distort, but you need to hold onto my words son.

1. Bravery. You will get the feeling that bravery is running into the fight and not being scared. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Don’t let appearances fool you. Bravery is doing what is right when you don’t want to. It means taking a stand when you want to throw up. It means fighting when you want to run. Bravery my son is taking a stand when you are scared to death.

2. Love. The world will tell you that love is about sleeping with a girl. This is not what love is. This is a byproduct of love and when it is not within marriage, it is a cheap knockoff. Love is 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Love well, Luke.

3. Toughness. Again this is misunderstood and I am sorry that the world will tell you to act like a man when you are a child. They will say all sorts of things referring to your physical pain threshold. Toughness is mental fortitude. It is to keep going when others would quit. It is to deny the flesh and live by the spirit. Toughness is to deny yourself and put God in first place. You can only serve one master; choose God.

4. Role in marriage. Your job is simple, yet far from easy. When you find a girl to marry someday, it will be your life long duty to love her the way Christ loved the church. To lay down your life for her and live a life that is sacrificial. Choose a girl like your mom and you will be honored to love her the rest of your life. Do not focus on her role, but focus on yours. Love her the way Christ loves you. Cling to God and He will help you to love.

Luke, I love your sweet spirit. You care for those that many overlook. You are brave. Though many see meekness, I see strength and power. You make your daddy proud. I wouldn’t want you to be any different than what God wants you to be. I pray that as your father I will point the way to the perfect Father. Trust in Him and He will make you who you are meant to be. Be blessed and enjoy your journey son.

What are you speaking into your kids?

 

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I am ashamed that in the early parts of my journey and still on certain days, I have viewed my family as a hindrance to my dream. If I only had more time. I can’t pursue my dreams because I don’t have time due to the demands of being a dad. These thoughts and excuses were part of my regular life. Blaming them instead of taking full responsibility for my inaction. I talked about this in length in my book, Dreams That Last. The bottom line is this; if you have a family you can either include your family or exclude them.

Including your family in the dream chasing journey will not come easy. It takes commitment and creativity to chase a dream with your family. These 4 things will help you to create a family dream.

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1. Margin. This will sound the opposite of chasing your dream with your family, but it’s not. You don’t want your spouse or kids to hate your dream, so as much as possible work on your dream in the margins of your life. I write in the morning before my wife and kids wake up. This helps them to still love my dream because it doesn’t take away from time with them.

2. Have them help. As much as possible ask them to help you. I asked my daughter today how I could be a better dad. My wife, a new blogger, (aimed at you busy moms) corrects my blogs. In our restaurants, our kids have helped roll dough for a few minutes and they have even been tipped by customers. Make it a family affair as much as possible. Your family will be eager to help if you frame it right.

3. Ask and Listen. We need to ask and listen to our families about when to slow down and when it is okay to push. I struggle here as I am a little bit of a stubborn headed mule. I am working on this and you need to work on this too. Listen to your loved ones and if they tell you they feel second, ask them how you can change it. No defense; just listen and come up with an agreed upon plan.

4. Boundaries. Have clear boundaries of work time and family time. I love to write so much this is hard for me. I have stopped writing in the evening to be present as a husband and a dad. What time are you off and keeping sacred for your family? If you love your dream this may be hard, however, it is essential.

Let’s make it a priority to keep family first. Include your family whenever possible. This journey is too long and hard on your own. One day at a time, one action at a time. Encourage your family to speak up. Listen to each person and incorporate your dream into your family. If you do this your family will have a big dream and not just a dream so small for just one. Be blessed on your journey.

How do you include your family in your dream?

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When my oldest child was born I started to ask questions that led me down this path of writing and speaking to go along with my two pizza restaurants. It was the question of legacy. If you have a family, I am sure that part of the process to pursue your dream is this thought of legacy. I asked questions like, why am I on this earth? I believe it is to restore significance to others. Today’s post is going to be to my two daughters. Here are 5 things I want my daughters to know.

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1. God loves you. As your daddy I want you to know first and foremost before anything else that the God of this universe made you. You  were put on this earth at this time for a reason. He made you and His love for you is something you cannot earn, but is freely given to you.

Embrace God’s love and walk with your head high.

2. Daddy loves you. I love you so much. I prayed for you before you were born and cried the day your mommy gave birth to you. You have me wrapped around your finger and I wouldn’t want it any other way. I would die for you and hope that even more than that I would live for you. When you fall down I will pick you up and when you do something great I will cheer you on. You will not like me sometimes, but the things you don’t like are there to protect you.

You don’t need to earn my love. I freely and openly love you with all my heart.

3. Don’t try and be equal. In this society people will tell you that you are equal to a man. Don’t cheat yourself; you are made a woman. You are not equal, you are not better, and you are not worse. You are a powerful woman who can change the world. Don’t squabble for scrapes of equality when you are meant to be fully a woman.

Embrace your femininity and be a world changer.

4. No man will make you happy. I would love for you to marry someday. The thing that I want you to remember whether you get married or not is that no man is meant to make you happy. Don’t put the power of your happiness in a person’s hands. It is not fair to you and it is not fair to another to put that pressure on them.

Happiness is a mindset; there will be pain in this life, but how you look at it will help you to be happy on your life journey.

5. Be unashamed. Don’t wear a mask. God made you for a reason. Embrace who you are. Dance like no one is watching and sing loudly. I love your strengths and I love your weaknesses. You are not perfect, however, you are perfect to me. Walk with your head high in the uniqueness of you.

Whatever this life throws at you, you are made strong in God.

I will do my best to point the way to God and love you more than any dad can. I will teach you so much, but more than anything I never want you to forget that daddy loves you Zoe and Hope. Keep being the strong, adventurous, pioneer little girls that I see.

What is one thing you want your daughter or son to know?

 

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Well Meaning Parents

Zechariah Newman —  January 7, 2014 — 6 Comments

One of the many jobs of parents is to protect their kids. If you have healthy parents they are always looking out for your well being. For me I am looking out for my three little ones and protect them from themselves daily. Here in lies the problem when it comes to chasing your dream. Well meaning parents can be the biggest dream stoppers. I have been fortunate enough to have supportive parents that encourage me to chase my dreams, but judging by the emails and private messages I am a minority in this. So what do you do if your parents think you are foolish to chase your dream?

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The first thing is to realize that their concern is a valid one. Chase your dream with wisdom. My reaction with anything I am excited about is to go full court press on it. I go all in and put all my chips in the middle. This is not the correct approach. I am the sole financial provider for my family of five. It would be irresponsible for me to go for broke literally. My first two jobs are as a husband and dad. Your mind, if you pursue your dream, will try to convince you to go all in at once. Find a way to pursue your dream a little bit everyday. Cut T.V., social time, and other things. Not your job. Pull the boat close enough to the dock that you can jump without landing in the water.

The second thing is to chase your dream anyway. Our minds embrace fear too much. When a parent who is our ultimate physical authority tells us that it is not in the cards, we can take so much stake in what they say that we never pursue our dreams. The doubts get louder and louder when authority figures tell you that you can’t. God is your head authority. Listen and honor your family and friends, however, first and foremost listen to the voice of God. Fear will cause you to freeze and not move. Fear causes your parents to tell you to not chase your dream. Your parents are afraid you will be let down and not be successful at your dream. Fear is a liar. We need to make steady progression overtime in the margins of life. Find creative ways to chase your dream.

Honor your parents with chasing your dream with wisdom. Take small steps everyday over a long period of time, not huge steps in a short period of time. In real life this looks like cutting social media, T.V., or a night out with friends to work on your dream. Not quitting your job and starting something you have not built. If you have children watch the words that you speak so you don’t cause doubt in them. You cannot predict a future that you don’t know. Be blessed on your journey.

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For a long time while dream chasing I viewed my family in the wrong light. I am ashamed to admit that I viewed my family as a burden and a road block to my dream. I was going about chasing my dream all wrong pushing aside my family and God to get my dream faster. There was not anything malicious and frankly I was still spending a lot of time with them. The problem was in my heart. My heart toward my family was a little off. Thank the Lord that I pressed into God and in my quiet time He spoke to my heart. You see it is the little things that show us if we are putting our family in proper order. If our priorities are not right we actually end up with a cheap knock off to what dream chasing is all about.

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Nothing could be more rewarding than chasing a dream with your family. Don’t leave them behind, but embrace them as co-dreamers. Your dream shouldn’t after all be your dream, rather your family should be referring to it as our dream. You need buy in and staying power with the family or you will be fighting up-stream against them instead of being united going in a common direction.

This is so impactful and important to me that I wrote a book on the subject. I am getting input and direction from my loving wife instead of putting it all on my shoulders. As a dream chaser you and I will be tempted to chase improperly and it can lead to loss of family, faith, and health. The imitation that we are promised in our minds is never there instead it could end up being a bunch of wreckage. It is important to chase our dreams properly so coming soon is my new eBook called, Dreams That Last.

In the book I will discuss proper dream chasing and what God has to say about it. This book will highlight the proper foundational elements to chasing dreams and keeping God in his rightful place as well as your family.

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When there is a bend in the road we need to slow down. The only way the road ends is if we don’t turn with it. I love country drives when I don’t know where the road goes. Simple turns take the road in a direction that I never imagined. Jon Acuff refers to these moments as “hinge moments.” When we look for huge changes in life we miss the small things that will really change our world. Most of us want to believe that we run along and jump onto another road. This is not how effective change usually happens. The only way to be able to see these hinges is if we are not rushing through life. I need to slow down. Do you? I get into the doing in life instead of the being. I can be extremely task oriented, pushing harder and faster until I run off the road. These 4 things help me to slow down so I see the “hinge moments” in my life.

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1. Be still. It is hard for me to sit at the feet of God with no agenda. No praying or music. The amount of time is not as significant as just some time. If you are like me two minutes feels like two hours. Just sit and listen. If God brings something up, put it at the foot of the cross and go back to listening. He is the still small voice. We need to plan in time to just listen. Most of the time we give Him our requests and praise instead of listening. Maybe He wants to say something?

  “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!”~ Psalm 46:10

2. Turn off technology. It is sad how hard this is for me and many others. No computer, phone, and t.v. Schedule it in if you have to. The world will get along just fine without you for an hour. Be present with your kids, spouse, friends. Nothing is more obnoxious than pouring your heart out to someone and they look at their phone.

3. Exercise. Sometimes you need to do some intensive cardio to free up your mind. If you exercise regularly it will change you mentally more than physically. This decompresses my mind so I can relax. I look at the world more confidently and see things I didn’t see before.

“Leave all the afternoon for exercise and recreation, which are as necessary as reading. I will rather say more necessary because health is worth more than learning.”~ Thomas Jefferson

4. Margin. We need to plan margin into our day. Some days I’m rushing from the moment I wake up to the second I go to bed at night. How are we going to hear or see any whispers from our heavenly Father or turns in the road with no space in our schedule? Plan time of space into your day.

Slow down and enjoy your life. Stop doing and start being. If you don’t find healthy ways to slow down, your body will eventually make you slow down. Life changes too fast so we need to be in the moment. We need to flex and turn with life by adding stillness and margin. Caution: there are curves ahead.

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