4 Influences That Help or Hurt

Zechariah Newman —  January 23, 2017 — 3 Comments

As a parent I am very on guard about what has influence on my children. I monitor what they watch, making sure that positive things are going into their little minds. I monitor what music they listen to making sure that they listen to worship music instead of music about sex, drinking, and drugs. I monitor who they play with making sure those families align with our core life principles. I make sure that people who watch them will teach and lead them the way we desire. My wife and I do all this because we are fully aware of how outside forces both positively and negatively influence them. Influence someone long enough and it will eventually affect their choices.

Why do we think adults are different then children?  

We protect what influences our children but all too often fail at monitoring influences in our own life. If you are going to take your marriage, parenting, business, or any other thing to the next level you need to reevaluate what you are allowing into your brain. Make sure that these 4 influences are pushing you in the right direction not pulling you down.

  1. Music. Your music needs to be encouraging you and lifting you up. As a Christian I want my life centered on Christ so I keep my music on worship. Whatever you choose just check the lyrics. Often we allow the worse things into our minds through the music we listen to. Check to make sure your music is adding to your life not taking away from it.
  2. Reading. What are you consuming through what you read? Don’t be passive with this. Make sure that you are reading in an area of life that you want to improve. If you want to improve your marriage make sure you read books on the matter ext. I make sure that I read my Bible every day because I want to grow closer to God daily. Don’t waste this valuable resource of reading by mindlessly dumping things into it. Be intentional with what you read.
  3.  TV. The average American watches over 35 hours of television a week! This is probably the biggest accuser when it comes to dumping garbage into our heads. I would recommend cutting back how much you watch. Turn the T.V. off and have a conversation with your spouse, play with your kids, or work toward your dream. Stop escaping from reality and do something to change your reality.
  4. Friends. Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” This statement rings true for my life. Who are you hanging out with? Do they talk to they treat their family the way you want to? Are they high achievers in business? How is there spiritual life? You are affected by the friends you keep. Make sure to spend more time with friends you want to be like and less time with the friends that are pulling you in the opposite direction.

You are being influenced weather you are aware of it or not. Take control of what is pulling on you and take control of your life. Be blessed on your journey.

  • Zech, thanks for this helpful post. I recently went to my first meetup in my area because I wanted to meet some new people and do something outside my comfort zone (i.e. meeting new people). It was great, and the my main thought in going was exactly what you said: we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with. The best way I know to increase my chance of success is to spend more time around successful people.

    Keep on writing — good stuff that is helping people.

  • Great word my friend! Blessings – Keith