5 Killers of a Dream

Zechariah Newman —  October 28, 2014 — 12 Comments

When I was twelve I wanted to be a major league baseball player. I practiced all the time with my dad and brother. This was my dream. I got pretty good making the local All-Star team, being amongst the best in a playoff. I was so excited to play and thrilled for the chance to compete. The playoffs started and I found myself on the bench. I didn’t get to play much at all that summer but just a few innings. Then the last game came, I got to play and went 4 for 4 while the team lost. That was the last time I ever played baseball. I quit, disillusioned I never suited up again and lied to my parents that I didn’t like baseball anymore. This is not an uncle Rico story, that if coach would have put me in we would have taken state. It is a story of my struggle in life to give up before break through. To lay down a dream just because it got hard or didn’t go the way I wanted it to. If you are chasing a dream avoid these 5 pitfalls.


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1. Comparison. I compared my skills to people who were different from me. In baseball, I had never hit a home run except an inside the park one. I thought that I was inferior because of this. Comparison is a good way to kill your dream. You were made unique; don’t try to be someone else or you will give up. Comparison leads down a path of wearing a mask, which leads to isolation and exhaustion.

Psalm 139:13-14  “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

2. Disappointment. You will face disappointment along your journey. Everyone that has accomplished anything had something to overcome. Your life will be the same way. It is in those places of disappointment that determines our lives. Will you cling to Christ or lay down? It is God that moves mountains. We merely partner with Him. Use disappointment to shape you and bring you closer to Christ.

Romans 8:37 “But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us.”

3. False summit. This goes with disappointment, however, it is the hardest disappointment for me. There will be times where you think this is the summit, only to find out you’re not even close. Our expectations getting shattered is the biggest blow. When you reach a false summit, take a deep breath and carry on. Dig deep in Christ for energy and never grow weary in doing what He has called you to do.

Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

4. Justification. Justifying how hard it is, is how we talk ourselves into quitting. Justifying is the beginning of the end. As soon as we start justifying, we are removing our power in Christ and giving it to another. Focus on your part and what you can do as this will move you on. The only justification we need is in Christ!

Romans 5:1 “Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.”

5. Ignorance. I have been ignorant to so much and I still am! Ignorance kills dreams, mainly because we spend a lot of time on the wrong things. Those that have achieved the dream you want, know how to get there. Ask God for wisdom and ask others that have made it. No one was meant to be on this journey alone. Remove as much ignorance as possible. Ask the One that gives wisdom. He is faithful!

James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

Press into God and find someone to talk to. Allow yourself to acknowledge disappointment and fear, then get back up and shoot again. Dreams aren’t stopped by failure, rather they are stopped by inaction. Sometimes a dream needs to die for another to start. Make sure that you have exhausted all possibilities first. You don’t want to wonder the rest of your life. Keep up the good fight and be blessed on your journey.

What motivates you to keep going?

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  • Hey Zechariah, I wanted to be a pro ball player as a kid too!

    What keeps me going is the vision and dream I have for the future. That keeps me pumping forward.

  • Dan Erickson

    I’m motivated by finding a way to positively share my creativity to benefit others.

  • What keeps me going the most is following the haunting call of the Creator. He never gives me a step-by-step plan, yet His call is there every day always beckoning me forward.

  • Excellent post, very encouraging and a great reminder for me. Recently, my dreams have been changed and considerably. I’m retiring next year from my full time job and planned to take it easy and have fun, no more 9-5 or traffic! Instead, I’ve accept a call from God to share the Gospel in many ways. At first, I fought this because I didn’t want full time work nor a 9-5 schedule, but God’s Direction has shown His Ways are better than mine. So, I am following His Lead daily, trying to do as He wants and follow His Call. Not as easy for me as this reads-

    • He has a way of doing that! Very exciting Allen. I’m excited for all that God has for you. Keep me posted, and let me know if I can help in any way.

  • marlo