5 Things That Will Help You Make a Decision

Zechariah Newman —  September 2, 2014 — 8 Comments

Dream chasing feels heavy sometimes with the amount of decisions we have to make. I feel like Mel Gibson at the end of Braveheart, my favorite movie. He is being tortured by having his arms and legs stretched in different directions. The strain on his joints as horses pull causes him to experience tremendous agony. Freedom! He ends up yelling before he loses his life. That about sums up my brain at times. I think, I’m going to go this way, then someone mentions a new piece of information and then I zig-zag. Never mind, I will head this way. You and I will never reach our fullest potential acting in this manner. Momentum happens over time so we need to learn how to stop over analyzing. These 5 steps help me to forge ahead in a direction.

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1. Perfection is a myth. This is the root of all the over analyzing. The myth that decisions are perfect; that if you just make the right choice it will all be wonderful. The clouds will part, light will shine down on you and the angles will sing. Look at this man; he chose wisely.  Make the wrong choice and you will be miserable and everyone will point and laugh. This is not reality. We make the best choice with the information that we have.

2. Life of learning. This is the mindset we should have. No matter if we choose the best choice or the worst we will learn. We will be perfecting our choices. That should be our measuring stick. Perfecting, not perfection. Focus on health and you will grow in your decision-making. This will take a lot of the fear out of acting on a decision.

3. Set a deadline. Set a deadline of when you will stop thinking and choose how long you will travel in that direction. When I started writing I didn’t know if I would enjoy it. I knew I wanted to help people and I knew I liked restoring. That was all the information I had so I dedicated to write for a year no matter what. That will end in five weeks and then a new decision will be made.

4. Narrow or broaden your view. If you are a big picture person come down to earth for a minute. If you are a narrow vision person expand your horizon. We all tend to look at life one way. I look at the big picture too much. I need to come back down to earth and look at life in a different way. Which way do you naturally look at things? Change it up and it can help you make decisions.

5. Stop asking others. I am way too guilty of this. Are you? I ask so many people and surprise they all have different counsel. There comes a point when you have to shut up and stop asking other people what you should do. Make decisions that you don’t need a co-signer for. You don’t need approval except for your spouse. People will not like your decisions and that is okay. Stop asking!

These 5 things should help you make a decision, but ultimately the battle is between your ears. Your decision is not life or death. If you don’t like the decision, just make a new one. Be blessed on your journey.

What helps you make decisions?

  • Great topic Zechariah, Of course it depends on the decison but I ask myself if it lines up with my calling and does it fit within my values.

  • My oldest son (almost 16) and I had a discussion about decision-making last night. He was frustrated that God didn’t just answer his prayers and tell him what decision to make. Among other things, I told him that often there is more than one right decision. We talked about simply making the best decision possible with the information available, knowing that decision making is often a leap of faith since the future is unknown. As we talked, he realized that God was answering his prayer through our discussion. He realized that he could make a decision, move fully into it without looking back, and know that God would bless him for doing the best he could. No one expected him to be perfect. So, we really got to employ several of the tips you wrote about. Amazing what happens when we just talk about the decisions we have to make with a trusted person.

    • So cool for having moments of wisdom to pass down to our kids. Awesome story Kari, thank you so much for sharing it!

  • Keeping my why in front of me allows me to move forward. It directs me toward the tasks I need to be focusing on while away from the tasks that I need to stay away from. Great read!

  • The first thing I ask when making a decision is if there are any moral issues involved. That often helps bring me clarity. If the decision could be made in good faith either way then I’ll talk it over with a trusted friend before making the final decision.