Love In Marriage

Zechariah Newman —  June 24, 2014 — 11 Comments

This week my wife and I have been married ten years. Though I am far from having all of the answers I have learned a few things along the way. There is one that sticks out like a sore thumb and that is I fail to meet the expectations put on me by the scripture. My wife who is full of mercy says, “You are too hard on yourself.” But let’s look at what the Bible says. In Ephesians 5:25 it says, “I am to love my wife the way Christ loved the church and gave His life up for her.

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If I was honest, in the early years my love was more often than I like to admit manipulative. Some thoughts that I had, What can I get? What do I need to do to get it? Though my acts look sacrificial, they were more for me than my loving wife.

While chasing your dream, it is beyond important to focus on the first things. One of those is the spousal relationship. As a man this is mainly for us guys, but I pray married or single, man or woman, you find value in this. As men, we have one job; to love like Christ. It is not to tell our wives to submit, (a peeve of mine), but to love in a sacrificial way. To lay down our wants and desires for the good of our wives. To lead in a servant way. To be strong by being gentle. Because in 1 Corinthians 13:3-8 it says, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” We are called to love our partners in this manner. In the same way God loves us. So let’s all whether male or female, single or married, raise our game. Let’s love a little more on the journey of life. Be blessed on your journey.

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  • What a role model Zech! Though I’m single, I know I want to give my 120% to my future wife and build a Christ-centered relationship.

    • Thanks for your kindness Paul! Christ centered is the only way! The more I focus on the cross the better husbands we become.

  • Congratulations on your 10 year wedding anniversary! I’ve learned a good spouse is priceless and essential when it comes to living a fulfilled and meaningful life. Great post!

  • We’re at our 10 year point as well, and love your encouragement to focus on the first things.

  • Congrats bro! You’re a shining example to a world that needs to see what love looks like.

  • So awesome.. Its becoming more rare to see awesome Christian families like yours. God bless you guys and I wish for many more for you all. Thanks for sharing.

    • Thanks Lincoln! Its sad but I believe you are correct. Blessings to you as well;)