You Will Never Get Your Dream Without This

Zechariah Newman —  March 4, 2014 — 9 Comments

If you do what the masses do you will be average. You are not called to be average. You are called, however, to be exceptional. One of the biggest things that you can do to become excellent is to know your “why”. In my book, Dreams That Last, I had this to say about our personal “why.” “The ‘why’ to our dreams helps us to overcome the three D’s: discouragement, disinterest, and distractions. Dig and find it. Take the time and make it real. Don’t give a fake answer that you think others want to hear, rather make it one hundred percent you…”

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So knowing how important it is to know your “why,” what makes it so hard to discover it for you? We are culturally taught to not think about it. We are okay with asking the “what” questions, however, the “why” questions are frowned upon. It is really sad because we are all born to ask the “why” questions. Hang around any four-year old and you will find out they are little “why” machines. We pound this out of our society by teaching our children that asking “why” is wrong and disrespectful. This behavior turns our children into non-questioning robots. Think about it, when we send a child to his or her room for disobeying and they ask, “why,” what do we do? Usually we utter the words, “Just go to your room!”

When I was always looking at what I wanted to do, I looked like a crazy and flighty person. At different times I wanted to be a cop, preacher, farmer, writer, speaker, coach, business owner, and many other things were all on the table as well. If this has happened to you, you are not crazy. The truth is you just don’t know your “why.”

It is important to your dream for you to rise above cultural guidelines and start asking “why” questions. If you don’t, it is like throwing darts at a dartboard while being blindfolded. Don’t jump to “what” without digging and fleshing out your “why.” Be blessed on your journey.

Why do you want your dream?

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  • Dan Erickson

    I think dreams are good, but I also think many dreams are driven by selfish wants and desires. My dream for years was to be a famous songwriter, okay, rock star. Here’s the deal, over the years I have become a great songwriter, perhaps better than most rock stars. I’ve also become a writer and a poet. In a sense I’ve achieved more than most people ever will in those areas. Yet I keep pushing. Why? Because I want recognition and success. But that’s not a dream. That’s a motive.

    • Very true Dan. We as humans are selfish naturally. I think most of our motives tend to be selfish in all areas. You are right that is your motive not your dream. Motives can be good driving us in a good direction or bad driving us in a negative direction. Thanks for adding those good thoughts;)

  • Knowing and keeping our why at the center of what we do is so essential. It moves us through the different seasons of life into the success/dreams we desire. Great post:)

  • When your “why” is big enough, the “how” is automatic was advice given to me years ago. This reinforces how important it is in everything we do.

  • Life is too short to settle, great post Zech!