I have recently heard one of the biggest pieces of wisdom. Where did I hear it? Of all places a comedian, Michael Jr. I don’t have the exact quote in front of me, but this is what he said, “Comedians are always trying to get a laugh.” Before he went on stage he felt God telling him, “Give them an opportunity to laugh; don’t try to make them laugh.” Here is why I love this. I am a writer and I believe that what I have to say is life changing. I can’t make people read or apply what I have to say. I can’t make them sign up to receive my e-book. I’m not in charge or in control of others. Your dream and mine, if it is of God, is not about you or I. If you are trying to make people read what you have written or buy your product, you will be constantly frustrated. You and I can’t make people do anything. This is so freeing. I am now looking at my writing with new clarity. I am giving an opportunity and it is up to others whether to receive it or not. These 3 things happen when we change to this perspective.
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1. It’s a gift. People have to want it. You don’t give someone a gift that you want. You give them what they want. This is simple yet profound. Imagine my wife’s reaction if I got her a new compound bow at Christmas. That would be ridiculous as she doesn’t hunt. I would love that gift, but it is not for me. I look for things that I think she would like because it is a gift to her. How can your dream be looked more as a gift?
2. Help others. More and more I want to share what has worked for me and where I have failed. I want to help you. If you have a pain point or a frustration I want to know because I am here to serve you. I want to help you in any way I can. Zig Ziglar says, “If you help enough people get what they want, you will get what you want.” So true.
3. New doors. When we change our perspective to being about giving other people an opportunity to receive, it takes pressure off and adds goods or services we were not looking at before. My friend, Dan Black gave me great advice that goes with this. It has led to new opportunities. At the end of my e-book I left my email to offer my services as a speaker and coach. Again, giving someone the opportunity to contact me. Two new doors opened out of a simple perspective change.
So remember to give people the opportunity and take your hands off the wheel. Trust God that He has a plan. You are equipped to do what He calls you to. You may not get an answer till you step out. Be blessed on your journey.
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