Overcomming The Fear Of Rejection

Zechariah Newman —  October 8, 2013 — 6 Comments

Excuses; we all have them. What do you tell yourself that makes you unworthy to even try? It took me forever to write. I had all these things I wanted to say burning inside of me. I still do. Here is the big harry truth: I can’t spell, punctuate, or structure sentences very well. Sometimes Microsoft Word can’t even figure out what I am trying to say. Thank the Lord I married a teacher. When I first began writing blog posts it would take Rachel longer to correct the post than it would take me to write it. I wrote for months too scared of rejection to share with anyone. These 4 things helped me to get over my fear of rejection.



1. Identity in Christ. We are made righteous through the shed blood of Jesus. Yes, we will still screw up. God sees us as perfect. Jesus stood in the gap and said, “Give me that sin. It’s mine! Give it to me!” We need to recognize and know that we are a new man or woman. We have traded our identity with the king’s. No matter what weaknesses I have, He will be strong in my weakness.

“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” ~ 2 Corinthians 12:9

2. We will be rejected. No matter what we do, say, or act like we will be rejected. I don’t like it, but it is true. Certain things I am ok with rejection and other things I really struggle with. The fact is I will be rejected and I should not let it stop me from doing what I feel called to do. Some will mock and others will benefit. In the greatest of heartaches and darkness the light is still there. (Tweet it)

“Regardless of what you want to do or who you are, fear will always see you as wholly unqualified for anything you ever dream or attempt.”        ~ Jon Acuff

3. Who supports you? I will continue to surround myself with those that support who I am. Those people tell me when I am in error, but in love. Fill your life with the ones who think you are a rock star. The ones that see the potential in you. You are worthy of your dreams. Search for relationships in people who challenge you to be that diamond they see.

4. See it differently. Rejection is progression; it means you are finding your voice. If you are not being rejected, you stand for nothing. The more I have made a true difference, the more I have been rejected. Sitting silent will assure no rejection and will achieve nothing that truly matters. Don’t rock vanilla to the grave. Stand up and be special. Face rejection head on.

These things continue to help me to step out and step up. I pray they help you. Be blessed on your journey.

What helps you get over the fear of rejection?

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  • Heide

    What helps me overcome that fear is remembering a quote by Dr. Seuss “Be who you are, and say what you mean. Because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” I’ve met people who have instantly disliked me, whether for my ethnicity, or just because. No actual reason really. However I’ve met far more people who have liked me, even after getting to known my stubborn, childish, and sarcastic self.

    • Love that quote its one of my favorites. Great job focusing on those that like you! Thanks for the response;)

  • Tiya Craven

    I try to remember that everyone has fears and insecurities…its kind of like picturing people in their underwear while you make a speech. Thanks for sharing some of your fears and insecurities. I am glad that you are writing, Zech…keep it up!

    • Thanks Tiya. Like the advice. I am convinced if we faced our biggest insecurities God would be able to be magnified in a huge way.

  • Zechariah have we met before. Because what you wrote in this post was me. I didn’t write for 20 years because of what a professor said about my writing. It was not until I decided to get over that rejection and possible rejections to come and trust God’s plan that I started my blog. I love number 4. I am seeing things differently and progressing forward with my vision.

    • In the pain of rejection God can use us the most. Lots of us rejected folk going in spite of it. I’m glad it spoke to you. I’m also glad you write instead of listening to that voice.;)