Are You Living Your Dream Or Someone Else’s?

Zechariah Newman —  July 4, 2013 — 7 Comments

Are you living your dream or the dream of your parents, coaches, peers, or mentors? It is easy to get pulled on by the people we respect and start living a life that we were not born to live. Sometimes it is a minor twist that years down the line you wake up and you have a life that was not what you wanted. Most people don’t pause long enough to look and see if they are headed in the right direction. These 4 things help me to make sure I’m living the dream God gave me and not what others force on me. 

“If you don’t know what your passion is, realize that one reason for your existence on earth is to find it.” ~Oprah Winfrey

1. Quiet time. At five in the morning I wake up to get time alone. You can read about that here. I spend time alone with my God reading the Bible and journaling. Sitting quietly at His feet. Seeking His plan, not the plan of those around me.

Photo: It really was wonderful!

2. Why do you want to be that? The why in life is the sweet spot. You have to stay in the sweet spot of life. The more I stick in my talents and abilities along with the why behind it, all the more my life is moving in a direction that I’m proud of. It really doesn’t matter what others think as long as I’m staying in that connecting area.

3. Dread going to work. If you continually dread work, you are not living out your dream. Start changing! The average American watches seven hours of television a day. Use some of that time to change careers. If you are having a bad day read this, otherwise change jobs.

4. You chose a career for the money. If you chose your career for the money you are probably running the wrong direction. When you are in your passion and skill money will flow. If you chose a career for the money that will not take you as far as connecting with your passion. Chase your passion first and the money will follow. This order is crucial to fulfillment.

“People can’t live with change if there’s not a changeless core inside of them. The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about, and what you value.” ~Stephen Covey

I think internally we all know whether we are living our dreams or someone else’s. Stop. Life is so much more alive when you chase what you were wired for. I can’t operate in the gifting of my wife as she is full of mercy. She can’t walk in mine which is exhortation. I would be miserable in her environment and she would miserable in mine. Live the dream of your life!

 What keeps you on the path you are suppose to be on?


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  • Enjoyed your post. I think point number one is a crucial element. Getting alone with God and seeking what he has for you is essential because he knows us better than we know ourselves! Other opinions can negatively affect us and put us on a course that God never intended. Thanks for sharing!


      Thanks for stopping by Luke. #1 is the most critical piece. To me it sets up the rest without alone time with God it is impossible.

    • Zech Newman

      Amen to that Luke. Thanks for stopping by and contributing!

  • Keith Claridge

    great post, what you said is spot on.


      Thanks Keith!

    • Zech Newman

      Thanks Keith!

  • Zech Newman

    Thanks Eric! Right on.